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Friday, May 2 2014

2 Samuel 13: The Rape Of Tamar

"Nay, my brother, do not force me; for no such thing ought to be done in Israel: do not thou this folly"

The Holy Bible is also a very real history book. It documents what people did, very good, or very evil - for the purpose of providing lessons for those who would read it. The Bible is unique among "religious" books in that, unlike man-made (man, as a species) religions, the Holy Scriptures tell the whole truth about the people written on its pages, including its "heroes." Humans alone would never have written the Holy Bible as it has been provided.

King David experienced great trouble within his very large families (plural; see The Wives Of King David). While some of David's children were very righteous and wise, others committed rape, incest, murder and treason.

Among the sons and daughters of David were Tamar and Absalom, children of "Maacah the daughter of Talmai king of Geshur" (2 Samuel 3:3) and Amnon, the firstborn son of David, with "Ahinoam the Jezreelitess" (2 Samuel 3:2).

Amnon developed an incestuous lust for his half-sister Tamar ("I love Tamar, my brother Absalom's sister"). When his deviant problem became known to "Jonadab, the son of Shimeah David's brother" (i.e. Jonadab and Amnon were first-cousins), devious Jonadab ("Jonadab was a very subtil man") devised a trap for Tamar.


"13:1 And it came to pass after this, that Absalom the son of David had a fair sister, whose name was Tamar; and Amnon the son of David loved her.

13:2 And Amnon was so vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar; for she was a virgin; and Amnon thought it hard for him to do any thing to her.

13:3 But Amnon had a friend, whose name was Jonadab, the son of Shimeah David's brother: and Jonadab was a very subtil man. 13:4 And he said unto him, Why art thou, being the king's son, lean from day to day? wilt thou not tell me?

And Amnon said unto him, I love Tamar, my brother Absalom's sister.

13:5 And Jonadab said unto him, Lay thee down on thy bed, and make thyself sick: and when thy father cometh to see thee, say unto him, I pray thee, let my sister Tamar come, and give me meat, and dress the meat in my sight, that I may see it, and eat it at her hand." (2 Samuel 13:1-5 KJV)

When Tamar came to tend to her supposedly sick brother (he was sick, but not in the way that he faked), he attacked her. His lust then immediately turned to hate: "Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her." Tamar was sent away, back to her family, by her own brother.

"13:6 So Amnon lay down, and made himself sick: and when the king was come to see him, Amnon said unto the king, I pray thee, let Tamar my sister come, and make me a couple of cakes in my sight, that I may eat at her hand.

13:7 Then David sent home to Tamar, saying, Go now to thy brother Amnon's house, and dress him meat. 13:8 So Tamar went to her brother Amnon's house; and he was laid down. And she took flour, and kneaded it, and made cakes in his sight, and did bake the cakes. 13:9 And she took a pan, and poured them out before him; but he refused to eat.

And Amnon said, Have out all men from me. And they went out every man from him. 13:10 And Amnon said unto Tamar, Bring the meat into the chamber, that I may eat of thine hand. And Tamar took the cakes which she had made, and brought them into the chamber to Amnon her brother. 13:11 And when she had brought them unto him to eat, he took hold of her, and said unto her, Come lie with me, my sister.

13:12 And she answered him, Nay, my brother, do not force me; for no such thing ought to be done in Israel: do not thou this folly. 13:13 And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go? and as for thee, thou shalt be as one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, I pray thee, speak unto the king; for he will not withhold me from thee. 13:14 Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice: but, being stronger than she, forced her, and lay with her.

13:15 Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone.

13:16 And she said unto him, There is no cause: this evil in sending me away is greater than the other that thou didst unto me.

But he would not hearken unto her. 13:17 Then he called his servant that ministered unto him, and said, Put now this woman out from me, and bolt the door after her. 13:18 And she had a garment of divers colours upon her: for with such robes were the king's daughters that were virgins apparelled. Then his servant brought her out, and bolted the door after her. 13:19 And Tamar put ashes on her head, and rent her garment of divers colours that was on her, and laid her hand on her head, and went on crying." (2 Samuel 13:6-19 KJV)

The assault destroyed Tamar's life: "Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house." Absalom, Tamar's full-brother, then decided to destroy Amnon's life, by murder.

"13:20 And Absalom her brother said unto her, Hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? but hold now thy peace, my sister: he is thy brother; regard not this thing. So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house. 13:21 But when king David heard of all these things, he was very wroth. 13:22 And Absalom spake unto his brother Amnon neither good nor bad: for Absalom hated Amnon, because he had forced his sister Tamar." (2 Samuel 13:20-22 KJV)

Absalom waited two years for the revenge - perhaps because Amnon was a fierce and deadly fighter (like his father David, who almost certainly was the one who taught his firstborn son and heir-apparent to be a winning warrior). Absalom nevertheless arranged for Amnon to be made "merry with wine" at a time and place where his guard would be down, and then killed by "the servants of Absalom" while he feasted.


"13:23 And it came to pass after two full years, that Absalom had sheepshearers in Baalhazor, which is beside Ephraim: and Absalom invited all the king's sons. 13:24 And Absalom came to the king, and said, Behold now, thy servant hath sheepshearers; let the king, I beseech thee, and his servants go with thy servant.

13:25 And the king said to Absalom, Nay, my son, let us not all now go, lest we be chargeable unto thee. And he pressed him: howbeit he would not go, but blessed him.

13:26 Then said Absalom, If not, I pray thee, let my brother Amnon go with us.

And the king said unto him, Why should he go with thee?

13:27 But Absalom pressed him, that he let Amnon and all the king's sons go with him.

13:28 Now Absalom had commanded his servants, saying, Mark ye now when Amnon's heart is merry with wine, and when I say unto you, Smite Amnon; then kill him, fear not: have not I commanded you? be courageous, and be valiant. 13:29 And the servants of Absalom did unto Amnon as Absalom had commanded. Then all the king's sons arose, and every man gat him up upon his mule, and fled.

13:30 And it came to pass, while they were in the way, that tidings came to David, saying, Absalom hath slain all the king's sons, and there is not one of them left. 13:31 Then the king arose, and tare his garments, and lay on the earth; and all his servants stood by with their clothes rent.

13:32 And Jonadab, the son of Shimeah David's brother, answered and said, Let not my lord suppose that they have slain all the young men the king's sons; for Amnon only is dead: for by the appointment of Absalom this hath been determined from the day that he forced his sister Tamar. 13:33 Now therefore let not my lord the king take the thing to his heart, to think that all the king's sons are dead: for Amnon only is dead." (2 Samuel 13:23-33 KJV)

Absalom then fled to Geshur (an area east of the Jordan River, beyond what is today the Golan Heights), his mother's homeland, where he remained in exile for three years. Unfortunately, as we will cover in the next studies, David allowed Absalom to return - where Absalom committed treason against the kingdom of Israel.

"13:34 But Absalom fled.

And the young man that kept the watch lifted up his eyes, and looked, and, behold, there came much people by the way of the hill side behind him.

13:35 And Jonadab said unto the king, Behold, the king's sons come: as thy servant said, so it is.

13:36 And it came to pass, as soon as he had made an end of speaking, that, behold, the king's sons came, and lifted up their voice and wept: and the king also and all his servants wept very sore.

13:37 But Absalom fled, and went to Talmai, the son of Ammihud, king of Geshur.

And David mourned for his son every day.

13:38 So Absalom fled, and went to Geshur, and was there three years.

13:39 And the soul of king David longed to go forth unto Absalom: for he was comforted concerning Amnon, seeing he was dead." (2 Samuel 13:34-39 KJV)

Fact Finder: Along with rape and incest, what are some of the other sexual abominations recorded in the Scriptures?
See Leviticus 18: Sexual Abominations

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This Day In History, May 2

1194: King Richard I of England granted the city of Portsmouth, on the south coast of England, its first Royal Charter.

1230: William de Braose, of the Marcher Lords dynasty in Wales, was hanged by the Welsh Prince Llywelyn the Great.

1507: Two years after entering the Augustinian monastery at Erfurt, future German reformer, Martin Luther, 23, was consecrated as a Roman Catholic priest. Luther remained in the order until 1521, when he was excommunicated from the Church of Rome.

1519: Leonardo da Vinci, Italian sculptor, scientist and painter of the "Mona Lisa" and the "Last Supper," died at age 67.

1536: Anne Boleyn, the second wife of King Henry VIII of England, was arrested and imprisoned on charges of adultery, incest, treason and witchcraft.

1611: The King James Bible was published for the first time in London, England, by printer Robert Barker.

Title Page of 1611 KJV 1668: The Treaty of Aix-la-Chapelle between France and the Triple Alliance (England, Sweden and the Dutch republic) ended the War of Devolution (1667-1668) which Louis XIV of France had initiated to advance his claims to the Spanish Netherlands.

1670: The Hudson's Bay Company was chartered. Two French explorers and traders, Pierre Esprit Radisson and Medard Chouart des Groseilliers, proposed the fur-trading company to England's Charles II and a group of English investors. The "governor and company of adventurers" of Hudson Bay received title to all land in western and northern Canada that drained into Hudson Bay.

1776: With the sole purpose of strengthening their own imperial empires (in North America and around the world) by challenging the British empire, France (which at the very same time occupied much of northeastern North America and the vast Louisiana territory to the south) and Spain (which at the very same time occupied what is today Florida and most of southwestern US) began supplying weapons to the rebels in the New England colonies that the British established in the uninhabited wilderness over a century earlier.

1808: The outbreak of the Peninsular War. The people of Madrid rebelled against French occupation. Francisco de Goya later memorialized the event in his painting The Second of May 1808.

1813: During the Leipzig campaign of the Napoleonic Wars, the French won the Battle of Lutzen.

1816: Leopold of Saxe-Coburg, the first king after Belgium, and Charlotte Augusta were married.

1885: The Congo Free State was established by King Leopold II of Belgium.

1918: General Motors purchased the Chevrolet Motor Company of Delaware.

1933: Adolf Hitler banned trade unions in Nazi Germany (see also Presidential Quotes On War, Terrorism, Religion).

1941: After the coup against Crown Prince 'Abd al-Ilah of Iraq earlier that year, Britain began the Anglo-Iraqi War to restore him to power.

1945: The fall of Berlin at the end of the Second World War. The Soviet Union captured Berlin.

1951: The Council of Europe admitted Germany as a full member.

1952: The first scheduled jet airliner passenger service began with a British BOAC Comet that flew from London to Johannesburg, South Africa carrying 36 passengers.

1953: Jordan's King Hussein took the throne after his father, King Talal, was deposed. In Iraq, King Feisal II assumed power.

1965: The first communications satellite for relaying television pictures became operational.

1982: During the Falklands War, the British submarine HMS Conqueror sank the Argentine cruiser General Belgrano. The ship was previously the U.S. Navy USS Phoenix, that saw action in the Pacific during the Second World War, before it was sold to Argentina in 1951.

1989: Hungarian border guards started taking down the barbed wire along the Austrian-Hungarian frontier. It became the first breach in the "Iron Curtain" that ultimately led to the opening of the Berlin Wall 6 months later, on November 9.

2000: U.S. President Bill Clinton announced that GPS access would no longer be restricted to the U.S. military.

2004: The Yelwa massacre. 630 Muslims were killed by "Christians" in Nigeria.

2008: Cyclone Nargis struck Myanmar (in southeastern Asia on the Bay of Bengal). Over 130,000 people were killed and millions were left homeless (a cyclone is a rapid inward circulation of air masses around a low-pressure center; circling counterclockwise in the northern hemisphere and clockwise in the southern - a hurricane is a cyclone).


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